Encouraging Independence: How to Help Your Child Build Confidence and Self-Help Skills

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As your child grows, they begin to realize that they have control over their environment and they can learn to do things on their own.

Tips for Building Toddler Independence

  • Set up an environment that allows your child to explore. Keep safe objects within your child’s reach and allow them to choose their object or toy of interest.
  • Allow your child to take the lead. It’s okay to set limits, but allowing a child to choose or lead an activity will give them a sense of confidence.
  • Teach your child. Being able to do things well is a key to independence. Walk your child through the steps it takes to accomplish a task.
  • Let your child help. Let your child help you fold clothes or wipe the table. They watch you do it and want to try too. This teaches them new skills.
  • Resist the urge to jump in. Once you’ve taught your child to do something, allow him/her to do it on their own. Don’t worry about spills or messes. Focus on letting them learn from their attempts.
  • Let your child be an individual. Once your child has learned to dress themself, occasionally let them choose what they want to wear. Don’t worry if it doesn’t match.
  • Establish routines. Let your child know that there are tasks that need to be completed everyday such as brushing teeth. Set up a visual schedule or reward chart to reward them for when they do routine things on their own.

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